Our experience selecting donor sperm

It became fun, being able to get on the computer and almost make a place an order for a sperm of knowing that we want children that are taller, because I’m 6’ 1-1/2”, my wife is taller. We wanted dark hair because both of us have dark hair, we want dark eyes. It’s a made-to-order process. So it’s pretty neat just being able to read different essays on why these people decided to become sperm donors and it gets into such emotion that you could start I feel like I know these people that are sperm donors. And we could read their essay and say, “Okay, this person has green eyes and freckles and blonde hair.” Well we know we don’t want that. Size 12 shoe versus size 6 shoe, it became fun, it was something we could do together and that’s when I started realizing that I’m gonna love this child even though “do not biologically mine.”

And that was probably the starting point of the excitement of knowing my wife is gonna be pregnant. So we went through, the following June we ordered the sperm. We went through the IUI in June, waited the two weeks, again the same result, nothing took. We decided to try it again, same result, nothing took. So, did the IUI in June, we tried another, again nothing happens. So we tried an IVF cycle in September, found out the great news that we’re pregnant and a month later or just a short of a month later we found out that we had a miscarriage which was a whole another devastating blow to this whole two-and-a-half-year process, two-year process. This definitely needed to let my wife’s body recover and at the same time we just needed not to talk about it, not to think about it, just put it behind us and try to get our lives back together in moving forward. We had frozen embryos, so in January we did another transfer of the frozen embryos and we decided to get extremely aggressive.

We put four embryos and I’m here today, happy, excited to say that May 7 at 9:07 P.M. for the first time ever I felt my baby kick. Today we are six months pregnant; my wife is 25 weeks pregnant excuse me. And I never use the word biological when I talk about my child ‘cause this is my child, and I don’t think about it and as hard as it was. October 9th, I’m looking forward to seeing my baby come out of my wife and enter this world.